Aside from a few of the usual slap fights girls get into from time to time, I've only had one memorable physical fight in my lifetime.
I was about ten when I shoved a tall, heavy-set, slightly older male classmate up against a fence and kicked and punched him, all the while screaming like a banshee. After about a minute or so of my puny attack, he finally had the presence of mind to push me away. When I fell to the ground, instead of hitting back, he reached inside his shirt pocket, pulled out a small, flat, sharp-edged stone and threw it at my head. (If you look closely, you'd see the scar left from the gash the stone opened on my forehead.)
But though I wore the evidence of that fight much longer than he did, the looks and comments I got from other classmates led me to believe that I'd done something remarkable: I'd dared to fight back when the school bully taunted and teased.
What was it that got me so incensed that I was willing to shut him up or die trying?
Every lunch period a group of us girls would go to a classmate's home (she lived near the school) and play a round or two of jacks. No boys were allowed even though some of them begged to come, the school bully included. So a slow rumor started that we were lesbians. I say slow because by the time most of us in the group heard of it, it had a life of its own. We had been paired off and each "couple" had been given nicknames, and an accompanying love story. The day of the fight I had finally heard the rumor and decided I wasn't going to our usual lunch spot. The bully saw me sitting alone and soon drew a crowd with his loud vulgar questions and taunts. Somehere in-between the taunts and stares, I lost it.
The fight ended the taunting. But some time later, much too late to do anything about it, I realized I'd never spoken up in denial of the accusation that I was a lesbian. More likely than not the prospect of an eloquent denial was restricted by fear and rage, and something else...
There were no openly lesbian women where I lived (several openly gay men though), so there was no substantive visible lesbian lifestyle (good or bad) with which I could identify or completely reject. I had nothing to argue sensibly against. So I remained silent, as did the lesbian women who HAD to have existed.
What did it mean that there were no openly lesbian women where I lived in Guyana, a little over 20 years ago? Was a woman who openly declared that she was not interested in a sexual relationship with a man (20 years or so ago in Guyana) destined to a life worse than a man who was openly gay?
Maybe (I'd like to think so anyway) somewhere in my 10-year-old mind I knew that to deny that I was lesbian was to add one more voice against it...one more voice...complicit...helping to uphold the cruel denying silence.
For one memorable minute (or thereabouts) I let my fists do the talking. I quieted one bullying voice which said lesbianism was wrong, and lesbians needed to hide in shame.
[Yesterday was UN-designated International Day Against Homophobia. In Guyana, the Society Against Sexual Orientation Discrimination (SASOD) appears to be fighting the good fight against legally entrenched stigmas against homosexuality.]
Good Morning CD, Thank you for thanking me. Here is an example of how Guyanese were in the day. In those days we had one pair of BATA shoes for church and one pair of BATA shoes for school and one pair of BATA shoes for walking around GT, well, my walking around GT pair of shoes were laced up oxford style shoes, well here I am cutting across GT to go in the market in my lace up shoes, and all of sudden a man riding a bike comes alongside me and says to me "yuh wearin man shoe, why yuh wearin man shoes" I kept walking and he just kept riding besides me and uttering that foolishness, well finally, I noticed that he was riding a ladies cycle, so I just shouted out "And yuh riding a lady bike" and he just rode on quickly.
Listen. I had Shadow. our area dresser steal my nice cotton shift from the clothes line. The next thing I know I am in Water Street and who I must see prancing around on the pavement in broad daylight, Shadow, Shadow in my shift, oh Lord girl, there was Shadow wine-ing in my dress on the pavement for stevedores, oh gosh, but I had to keep my tongue between my teeth, as I didn't want trouble on the pave. I use to sell cosmetics from my house, and Shadow was my customers, anyway, I am going to buy the book you have posted here.
In the yards of GT you can hear the lastest news.